Sunday, October 02, 2005
Living in …
It was last week when I saw “Salaam Namaste” … a beautiful comedy giving us an opportunity to learn a lesson … of life!
I might sound a bit too much of a philosophical… but if we see from a different paradigm the movie is a good way telling us the type of discomforts… compromises … commitments … being taken as granted … we face during different phases of life…
It illustrated two different relationships in contrasts with each other… one of live-in and other of a married (settled) relationship… there is no end love between each other in either of the relations … we do compromise in both the situations … however there was a point where the priority self takes precedence over family in case of live-in… on the other hand the “family” took a different direction to enjoy the moment and grow … unlike the self centered couple… and still there was love all around…
Its good to start as live-in and then go ahead settling down… for the very reason sighted in the movie… you remain in the cloud of making each other in a state of comforts… giving in more than they can take… being in love… then get settled when you realize that you just can’t live without each other…
Though with Indian cultural scenario, the above aspect seems a dream… quite a few of us would have a gf/bf to begin and when get settled things turn out relatively different than expected … more often because of high level of expectations and being granted! The rest of us will start our venture in an arranged marriage where in be the time you get to know each other (and compatibility) … it’s too late… you are parents of two and don’t have time for any such stupidities! There is greater level of acceptance with each other in the latter arrangement …
Whatever the arguments… I know I’ll be doing nothing but following the latter :D … more so because of the social pressures !!
I might sound a bit too much of a philosophical… but if we see from a different paradigm the movie is a good way telling us the type of discomforts… compromises … commitments … being taken as granted … we face during different phases of life…
It illustrated two different relationships in contrasts with each other… one of live-in and other of a married (settled) relationship… there is no end love between each other in either of the relations … we do compromise in both the situations … however there was a point where the priority self takes precedence over family in case of live-in… on the other hand the “family” took a different direction to enjoy the moment and grow … unlike the self centered couple… and still there was love all around…
Its good to start as live-in and then go ahead settling down… for the very reason sighted in the movie… you remain in the cloud of making each other in a state of comforts… giving in more than they can take… being in love… then get settled when you realize that you just can’t live without each other…
Though with Indian cultural scenario, the above aspect seems a dream… quite a few of us would have a gf/bf to begin and when get settled things turn out relatively different than expected … more often because of high level of expectations and being granted! The rest of us will start our venture in an arranged marriage where in be the time you get to know each other (and compatibility) … it’s too late… you are parents of two and don’t have time for any such stupidities! There is greater level of acceptance with each other in the latter arrangement …
Whatever the arguments… I know I’ll be doing nothing but following the latter :D … more so because of the social pressures !!
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well all I would say is that .. both are models .. the latter is a different one .. but still its a model ...
And in the Indian context where regard for family is always more than individual, this model is preferred.
Also in the west, parents stop playing any role in a child's life pretty early in life. Unlike so here parents still are a part of your (and so even your spouse's) life. Hence a live-in may not be suggested.
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And in the Indian context where regard for family is always more than individual, this model is preferred.
Also in the west, parents stop playing any role in a child's life pretty early in life. Unlike so here parents still are a part of your (and so even your spouse's) life. Hence a live-in may not be suggested.
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